Each child has to walk their own path. Both my children were in the gifted programme. My son soared. My daughter became unhappy and hated school. I could of sided with the teachers and her head and pushed but I sided with my daughter and will continue to do so every single day. I had her removed from the programme, she is happy, confident, looks forward to school, gives 100% and actively engages with learning. Shes still exceptionally bright but prefers to stay under the radar. As long as my children contibue to show kindness and compassion, give 100% to whatever sparks their passions, can support themselves and are happy — they have succeeded at life. They are not judged on academic success in this house.